A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? .. I'm 26 years old and I've dated a number of women in their late 30s in the last few years. .. a good looking year old, but I am just not attracted to them.
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Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women? Would it really make you feel better about yourself? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women.
If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved.
Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now. This is only an issue if it's made into an issue. Live your life, man. I was 27, he was A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was It didn't last, but he's still one of my favorite people in the world.
We still root for each other. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out.
But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it. That age gap itself is fine. But the fact that it concerns you and you have to ask this question says to me, pretty strongly, that you personally shouldn't date this woman.
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My oldest brother is 12 years younger than his wife. They have been together for 37 years and are happy by all accounts. So yeah, it works. Whomever started that cougar and milf shit should die in a fire. I have been described as an "old soul", so it's not surprising I get along well with older women. As a year old, I dated a year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers.
Just be open and honest, listen to both your heart and your mind, and it is hard for things to go too wrong. Don't worry about it. My wife is 5 years older than I am. We met and knew within 3 days that we were meant for each other, and we've been married for 30 years.
Last summer I dated a woman who is nearly five years older than me. I never cared a bit about the age difference. She, on the other hand, never seemed to get over the age gap. Thus, we only lasted a couple of months. But, had she been OK with the gap as I was , the relationship may have lasted a good bit longer. TLDR - Age difference is only a problem if you think it is. My male fiance is younger than me, a lady!
And honestly, it's normal to freak out about this stuff even if you are super-enlightened. I consider myself super-feminist, but still had this idea in my head that women don't date younger men, because they're less mature, and make worse relationships. My fiance reminded me that we share the same cultural touch points.
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Y craze that lasted all of about five minutes? That said, while it's normal to worry about it briefly, if you stick with these concerns, it might mean that there are some lingering insecurities. I've done it at 30 and She was a little uncomfortable with the idea for the first month, worrying that maybe she was too old for me, but it turned out to be fine. We just enjoyed the hell out of each other.
Here's a good rule of thumb: Question any assumption that requires you to judge a woman negatively for being a woman and doing the same damn thing as you. In other words, either a five year age difference between consenting adults is creepy or it isn't. The older party being a woman doesn't somehow make it wrong, that's a sexist double standard and it's bullshit. Think of it this way: Does that sound like any kind of healthy or happy way to approach a relationship? Women are people, just like you. You've got plenty of good advice here so this is just a little story: She was 42 and he was 30 when they met at work.
They fell in love and were partners; they had two sons and raised them. They were together for 21 years. I guess you'd have to ask Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. When I was 26, my boyfriend was We lasted 10 great years together. When I was 42, my boyfriend was We made a great couple, and were together for years as well. In both relationships, I very much felt we were equals. Two people, well met, who happened to have an age gap. The only times it got twitchy was when we'd go out to bars, and the guy would get carded, and the doorman's face would contort in confusion, trying to decide which would be less awkward: To answer your question: Magic 8 Ball says: My wife is five years older than me.
The cougarMILF protection squad has yet to come knocking at our door. Seriously, not only is the five year age difference not an issue, but 31 is not old by any stretch of the imagination - except that which has decided that 30 year old women are past their expiration date and everyone past that point needs pity and wrinkle cream.
This is the segment of our society that sells magazines telling women to look younger and telling men that younger women are more valuable. Don't listen to it. Why don't you ask her our first and start dating and then see if you two are compatible? It's not that it's not okay to date them, I'm just not into them. And maybe if I got to know them I would change my mind, but just from looking at them, I can appreciate a good looking year old, but I am just not attracted to them.
So ask her out first, see how it goes, and don't overthink the age thing. Hopefully she doesn't think the same way I do. Which leads me to believe that some single guy wrote this on a dating site because he can't meet someone. Is that really who you want to believe? I'm a 31 year old female. If some year old dude referred to me as a cougar, I'd probably smack him right upside the head. Ask her out if you are ok with dating an older woman.
Older women are awesome because we're well established, are independent, have careers, cool interests and do fun stuff. Some of us even have accepted ourselves and our bodies for what they are and are over the phase of trying to be something we're not. We're awesome because we're confident, fun and know ourselves pretty well and are comfortable in our own skin. I am a year-old woman who has dated a couple year-old men recently.
Age doesn't really enter into it at all. One of these relationships hasn't worked out because year-old Guy A is fairly immature and insecure, but that doesn't have much to do with his age--I know year-old men who are equally immature and insecure, and year-old Guy B is perfectly mature and secure. I'm not sure what you think "31 years old" means or looks like, but I don't look or act much differently than I did when before I crossed that magical line into my 30s that doesn't actually mean anything at all, and when I am out with year-old men no one notices the small age difference.
Most people assume we are roughly the same age because we are! I think commenters above have already covered the sadness and wrongness of the myth that there is something wrong or less-desirable about "older women. You seem to think that she likes you, but do you like her? I am not sure that I see that anywhere in your question.
Do not let people like this drag you down to their level. Only qualified for retail jobs This thread is closed to new comments. Did that explain it? Across all ages, straight women write shorter profiles than straight men. And then there are those year-old women who really clean up with the year-old dudes.
Cindy has been dating men in their 20s for the past 15 years. Working in tech, she sometimes feels she has more in common with somethings than older men. When I spoke with women who message much younger men on OkCupid, most of them told me something similar.
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I have no desire to have a man telling how I should be conducting my life. But I have been on dates with guys some 10 years older, and my feelings are this: The odds are in your favor if you do. Written and researched by Dale Markowitz.
Graphics by Hanna Kim. Sign in Get started. He wants to find a suitable partner for a long-term relationship, and, eventually, possibly, marriage. Men in their 20s have a lot of bravado. He wants you to be open about what you want. A man in his 30s is more open to clear and honest communication than ever before. Remember, a man in his 30s has, for the most part, relinquished the cavalier, immature, and sometimes selfish ways of his 20s.