Before you get too attached to that guy or gal you're dating, take heed of Dr. Linda Mintle's advice.
Table of contents
- Need Prayer?
- Practical Guidelines for Christian Courtship
- 7 Tips for "Christian Dating"
- Christian Courtship And Dating
- The Essential Do’s and Don’ts for Courtship and Dating
Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need. Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits.
Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection? If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. You should respect and honor each other. If you are a teen, you must honor your parents and respect their counsel Ephesians 6: You are subject to parental authority. Linda Mintle is a author, professor, Approved Supervisor and Clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, as well as a licensed clinical social worker with over 20 years in psychotherapy practice.
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Practical Guidelines for Christian Courtship
Like you I have been single for what seems like forever. The plan I saw God revealing to me would be that I would remain single.
As hard as it was to accept, I came to realize this was the plan God had for me. I had come to love that life. I was doing what God had called me to do. And now He was calling me to something new. I do not know if God has someone for you, but please enjoy being single. I now look back on that time of my life with fond memories. And have fun doing it!!! This article was really encouraging. I shut people out by convincing myself their not the ones without even giving them a real chance. Thank you for giving me a change of perspective on this subject.
Hi Lisa, I stumbled upon your site recently, so my comment to your post is a little late BTW, I love your posts — I can really relate to you. You get to observe the guys in a safe area and they can do the same and you can still have the private, meaningful conversations in a corner away from everyone else but not be totally alone with him. Never met anyone interesting, never matched with anyone at all. The list is very good, and true. But I will admit, that one point is a stickler. Especially for those of us who feel like time is rapidly running out. Well, one thing I know: With you, my friend.
I like cats too! Great list with many points I had not thought about before. I have 3 children ages , so we have been having many discussions about how to walk through that time when it comes.
One thing I would add to your list would be having a good system of accountability in place; whether it be having chaperones, no one-on-one dates, or whatever your convictions are on the matter I think it is important to have accountability as a protection. So many young people think they are safe from the possibility of not maintaining physical purity, but the temptation will be stronger than they think.
I am reminded of a verse that came up this morning in the sermon: No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.
Reading this post Gosh and your entire blog, what a jewel it just keeps encouraging me to wait on the Lord I only want a relationship from him I know he will allow it in his perfect timing so I just keep waiting! I can tell you I understand what you are going through. You can see all your friends and in your case clients in relationships, and its hard not to be a tad bit…worried.
I mean, I was! I was worried my future person if I would even get one, lets be honest would think I was strange or weird because I lacked experience. Anyway, I digress, I just wanted to say I have also been there, and it is really hard. I am 26 also and dating someone now. He appreciates the fact I have never dated anyone, in fact, he is surprised by it but in a good way. Just look at what happened to me!
7 Tips for "Christian Dating"
What I am saying is you are perfect the way you are. I definitively had nothing to add to your list!
I had one boyfriend when I was 15 and he cheated on me 2 months later. After to watch my dad cheating on my mom so many times, the pain I felt was awful. The trust in men was lost. I decided to be on my own. Then I become Christian a year later.
Christian Courtship And Dating
Then God worked with my disappointment an anger. But, I decided He will be my only love in life. I was so scare. I knew he was the man God had for me. We date for less than a year before we get married. He had a big bag on his shoulders and mine was maybe double heavier. But as God promise when I ask him if I should marry him, He walk us trough every single fight and disagreement. We learned to offer and receive forgiveness. Your time and emotional energy is valuable, so decrease your risks by investing into relationships that will build you up and challenge you no matter what the outcome.
The Essential Do’s and Don’ts for Courtship and Dating
But really, it has to be said. There are far too many people out there trying to be someone they are not- or even worse- unaware of who they actually are. In order to be yourself, you have to know yourself. How easy is it to get so hung up on this dating stuff that it becomes more stressful than enjoyable? Getting to know people should be a rewarding time of learning about others.
Look for Him at work in your interactions with others, and have a good time. Leave with No Regrets: The easiest way to live a life of little regret is to make good choices. Making good choices involves setting healthy boundaries and limits in your emotional and physical exchanges with others.