Im dating a man shorter than me

“Would you ever consider dating a guy who was shorter than you?” It was a year after college, and the person asking me that was a guy I had.
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Awhile after that, I met a dwarf online and he was completely honest and upfront and his profile totally kicked ass. We talked for awhile, clicked, talked about meeting up, then I found out we were politically incompatible. However, I still have him a chance. A lot of people are more open minded these days. It is when your spouse is 6 feet tall and likes heels. His shorter brothers are all happily married too.

Shortness is going to be an issue, no question. People like people who are attracted to them. I'm not sure having a preference for slender women makes the LW a hypocrite. Everyone has their preferences. I am not a slender woman myself. I've dated men who preferred larger women, and I've been turned down by men who were put off by my size.

Mostly, I've dated men who either didn't care or preferred a slimmer physique but were ultimately attracted to other things about me. At the end of the day, we're all attracted to different things in varying degrees. I strongly agree with everyone who suggested LW put more energy into meeting women in person.

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People tend to only swipe right on their preferences. Having preferences does not make one a hypocrite. Having preferences but whining about the fact that your target market also has preferences makes one a hypocrite. If he gets to rule out heavier ladies, he has to accept ladies ruling out short men.

Not saying this particular guy is doing this; in fact, he does say "I get it. Now mind, they are not interested in me romantically they just see me a safe male voice. The LW needs to forget some sort of "ideal" type of woman he wishes to seduce and instead be OK with who he is. No, maybe this is not fair that the women get to decide whether as Elaine put it on Seinfeld he is "spongeworthy". Life is not fair!

My advice same advice to male and females is to involve themselves in social activities that they are genuinely interested in, yoga, drone license, kayaking, caving, whatever. There will be someone who is interested in you.

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When that person shows an interest in you; BTW the woman i married is quite a bit taller than me. She has informed me that she does not like it but I keep hanging in there. I am not a bad catch. ALSO I like the advice of I LOVE short men. I hate standing on my tip toes to kiss. What I don't love is whiny men who blame the world for their problems. This is an attitude issue, not a height issue. If there are two of them out there Their wedding pictures are amazing. He is dwarfed by her gown, and they kinda had fun with it.

In any case, I'm short, and uncomfortable about it. I hope I've never made a girl feel like she needed to shrink, but when I think about it, Idon't think I've ever dated anyone taller than me which might be a bad sign. I like short girls, and to the extent that I like guys, I like them very short.

So it must exist, right? I'm trying to reflect on how I've felt about shorter men, and here it is in a nutshell. It's not that I find short guys unattractive. Plenty of short guys are very attractive. It's that I simply wouldn't notice an attractive short man right away as I might notice and attractive tall man. Something had to draw my attention to him. Once I do notice though, the height stops being a factor- not an obstacle at all. This is different from features which I do find unattractive.

This is totally different with height. Assuming he's attractive and fun, the height really doesn't matter. It just makes it harder for him to be noticed initially. I can't say that any of those guys were as short as 5'2"- I'm just not sure. So I don't know how helpful that is. Hate to be the bearer of bad news but contrary to 39 and 41, I was in a relationship with a short guy for a while, and then a tall one.

The angles just weren't right, with that and many other sex things. But then I'm 5ft 5 and have a long torso and short legs, which is less good than the reverse. As I once said to a shortish male friend who was complaining that women prefer tall men, it's not that we all prefer tall men -- it's just easier to notice them in a crowd! I was once dating men who were 5'7" and 6'7". At one point I was snogging Mr 5'7" and broke off mid smooch to say "This is awesome!

I can kiss you without having to stand on my tiptoes and hurt my neck! It's all about creativity: Interesting that women 6'0" and over have, on average, more sex partners despite being hit on less frequently. I wonder if it's because the men who do hit on them tend to be more confident which is a turn-on. I'm a woman around the height of an average man. I've dated men a few inches shorter than me who loved my height and remarked on my sexiness in heels, even when the heels made me half a foot taller than them, and I've dated men a couple inches taller than me who felt uncomfortable when I wore heels that brought me up to their height or an inch taller.

I always found those in the former group super sexy and confident and those in the latter group a little insecure. Wasn't there a study a while back showing that short guys marry younger wives and are in happier marriages? Also, I thought shorter people tended to live longer and be healthier than tall people. Future Cat Lady, that statement surprised me also and I would also like to know more about it. More sex partners doesn't mean that they are having more sex btw.


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It could be that they are less likely to have long term partners- maybe more dudes are down for a fling but not a relationship? Just speculation, have no idea. The confidence factor makes sense- confidence is sexy, but arrogance isn't- sometimes people mix the two up. BDF, I do think it's true that women generally prefer tall men. But preference isn't the same as requirement. I prefer a man that looks like Idris Elba but if I required it, I'd be a very lonely person. It might be that taller women have more sex because they find men less physically intimidating than shorter women do?

Emma 46, I agree generally see the "all" in my comment -- but when someone is seeking reassurance it's best not to say "yes, you're right, we'd all dump you for a tall guy if given the choice, may as well give up. Oddly, the fellow in question was about 5'8" so not what I would even class as short. It's odd what people are self-conscious about.

Here's one collection of anthropometric data from the CDC, which may help clarify relative heights - https: A lot of the studies I was finding were using self-reported data, which are unreliable for height men especially tend to exaggerate by a few inches, and it's so common that most people's idea of what constitutes e. So, I concur with the people saying that, in practical terms, especially in comparative terms to women, a 5'2" man is much shorter than a 5'6" man, and their situations aren't all that comparable.

I don't really have any additional advice - work on being a person who is enjoyable to be around, try not to be bitter, try to view rejection as the gift it is women who consider a short stature a deal-breaker are not good partners for men with short statures; even if you did wind up dating them, they wouldn't be happy and you'd be constantly insecure - but I wanted to put some reliable numbers out there to contextualize the conversation and anecdotes a bit better.

Personally, I had one friendly acquaintance in college who was under 5 feet, and a number of our women acquaintances swooned over him; he had long-term relationships with a couple women while I knew him, so I know height alone isn't a categorical deal-breaker. Being in a larger city helps, the fact that he kept himself fit though not overcompensating-with-body-building muscle-bulgy - though, of course, plenty of women are into that, too and had pretty symmetrical features almost certainly helped, and being personable, outgoing, and funny also helped.

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You can't do much about your height beyond wearing lifts, so work on the other stuff you can control that will make people more likely to want to be around you in general for sexytimes OR friendship , and you're less likely to be bitter and alone bitter isn't generally attractive to people , plus cultivating a good social group will mean that you have more opportunities to meet a wider variety of people who are also vetted to some degree by being friends or acquaintances of your friends or acquaintances.

Most of that is, of course, general dating advice, and it's certainly not a panacea. In my own case, trying to follow that advice, I last went 7 years without a date and my recent girlfriend broke up with me two days after she wanted to go exclusive - she said she spent the intervening two days between those conversations panicking about how to fit a "boyfriend" into her busy life as a PhD candidate and bailed, though we're still in contact and may circle back around, depending on how much of that was true and how much was a face-saving lie. At least half of my infrequency of partners is almost certainly on me and not potential partners - whom I'm not interested in, my refusal to give third-party companies access to my Facebook data eliminating the possibility of using Tinder or similar currently-popular dating apps, my antipathy toward capitalism and normative "success" in a capitalist market context, effects of mental illness that cause me to socially withdraw - and I've learned to be more relaxed about it over the years.

On the other hand, I look at all the people around me that don't really have trouble setting up dates with people and finding people to date for at least a couple weeks and potentially much longer - I'm differentiating between going on first dates with different people and going on dates with people they like at least enough and who like them at least enough to have some follow-up dates , and I wonder what exactly it is that makes dating so hard for some of us. It may simply come down to random chance at some point - encountering people with whom one is mutually compatible, not just at all, but when they're not already involved and invested in an exclusive romantic relationship.

The erosion of certain institutions that provide people with instant community - religion, civic groups - without replacements that fill the same social function is likely another contributor to isolation, as is an increasing expectation that labor functions on a national or even global supply model, requiring people to move more often to seek good jobs. So for anyone struggling to find human connection romantic and otherwise and community, part of it might be you and there's lots of advice on how to address that , and part of it might also be society.

This stereotype is important to recognize because subconsciously it can still affect our dating lives and who we decide to get romantically involved with. Tall women tend to have a complex with dating because, like any other human, we hate putting ourselves out there only to be rejected by a potential partner based on merely a physical attribute in our case, our height — an attribute we cannot control. But height aside, all women in general have gone on a crusade, fueled by the body-positive movement, to ask men to stop being so dang shallow.

I feel like this helps to keep our general expectations in a more reasonable place to begin with. Then ask yourself this: If you have, then you should extend the same courtesy to any guys that are shorter than you that are interested in taking you out for a date. I am not writing this to persuade you to jump into a relationship with some jerk who has short-man syndrome to the nth degree — those guys that just cannot deal with women that are taller than them. Like all of us, men also need to work on their insecurities and bring a healthy self-esteem and a good dose of confidence to the table before they are ready to be in a healthy relationship with somebody else.

If they are secure and comfortable enough with themselves to ask you out on a date, then you should most definitely give it a shot. My older sister, Amy is a perfect example. I will never forget when she called to tell me that her now-husband had asked her on a date. They had mutual friends, so they had met in person several times before he decided to ask her out. I could tell she seemed really uncomfortable and unsure, but at the same time also excited. Besides her, I know so many other tall women that have dated or married men the same height or shorter than them, including myself.

So, what if dating was like the show The Voice? That is, most models are on the taller side, so standing next to him makes you look more like a model, not tall and gangly. Observe other happy couples. While a short guy with a tall girl isn't as common as the opposite a short girl and tall guy , you'll find many happy couples in the world who are similar in heights to you and your guy. Once you've observed a few couples whether ones you know, a couple in public, or even celebrities , you'll likely find that they don't care at all about the height difference.

Rather, they just care about loving each other. Decide you won't let others get you down about your height. That is, when you're trying to meet guys or when you're going out with a shorter guy, you shouldn't feel you need to hide your height. Most people find confidence sexy, so don't try to slouch or hunch over, as that will just make you appear like you're ashamed of it. Instead, stand up straight, look people in the eye, and flash a big smile.

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If you don't want to emphasize your height difference, you can stick to flats most of the time rather than wearing heels. As a bonus, you're feet likely won't hurt as much! Obviously, you need something to lean on, such as your boyfriend. You don't want to slouch.

Rather, you just want to look casual, putting you at a more even height with your boyfriend.

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When I went home I was so stressed, but now I am happy. Thanks for letting us know.