A relationship expert claims this is how much you should see someone when you first start dating them.
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Then I don't see the need to check in with each other. We'll just talk the next time we see each other, which will likely be in a day or two. So average once a day, but you could probably get away with x a week if she's a bit more understand and she's a busy person. Definately more of an intellectual. When I text or call a girl it's for a reason. I hate small talk or when I get texts about nothing particular. I like the idea of compromise, I can go outside of muncomfortnzone with it.
But I think talking in the phone twice a day in addition to texting is over the top. Exactly, I don't feel the need to texting to tell about the goofy cat photo I just saw on the internet, nor do I consider texting a fun activity to pass the time when I'm bored. I'll find something productive to do. But I'm open to compromise. I told her how I felt about it.
She still texted or called from time to time, but only when it was important, like if she had a ruff day, a fight with her parents, etc. I would talk with her briefly to. She also knew that if it wasn't important, it was best just not to bother me.
She could just tell me when we saw each other next which wasn't an eternity. It was most likely at most, the next day. The problem is for women, its about competition to their female peers. They want to see who's Boyfriend cares about them more, and they gauge that by the amount of texts they get per day. Reading your comment has really open my eyes to a different perspective. I would feel the same way that if a guy doesn't text me a lot then I'm not on his mind. But now I'm starting to see that it's ok to go a day or two with out hearing from him. You're right it's about how much time he spends with you and that he makes a effort to contact you.
It may not be 5 times a day but as long as he contacts you frequently and spends quality time with you then that's all that matters. I also think its interesting that you basically said men bond through touch? So a man would rather touch you to show you that he cares and misses you than to talk? I know not all the time but are you saying most of the time it is this way?
And also when you say touch, do you mean sexual touching that leads to sex or just cuddling? Yes carmelc, endorphines released in males during physical touch and proximity. In women the same reaction occurs during deep conversation. I'm not saying that men don't enjoy deep conversations and women don't enjoy touch. But those things fill a special need for both genders to feel close and intimate towards there partner.
Aka an emotional attachment. For guys this includes all levels of touch, from hand holding, to sex, and everything else inbetween.
This is why guys who are crushing on a girl will subconsciously always try and be near the girl same room, sitting next to her, standing near her, etc. I think you have the idea.
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It's just a different way of communicating. Neither gender is wrong, but given that both genders need to learn to compromise and be understanding of the others needs. Finally, I just think as an adult, you have better things to be doing that texting all day, and you really get busy. You need to be able to go a few days without contact from your SO. This is just me personally because I've encountered this problem before, I would not be OK with twice a week contact unless I planned on keeping the guy in the "casually dating" category.
That's fine for someone to go out and play with once in a while, but it wouldn't be enough for me to consider a real relationship, feel comfortable with where I stood, etc. I understand that you're not in a relationship with these girls so you're within your right to play it however you want, but I like consistent contact and it would be something that would keep me from getting more serious with a guy. I actually had an experience with a guy like this once and I just assumed from his minimal contact that he wasn't very interested, or was seeing other girls.
When I got into a relationship with someone else, he was really mad at me and said that he had liked me a lot and planned on inviting me to his military ball in a few weeks. I was speechless because I had no clue, I just figured we were casually having fun hanging out every once in a while. So I guess that was my long drawn out way of saying, for me to feel comfortable and consider a relationship with a guy, I need contact on most days, even if it's just "hello. I thought that I make plans to hang out at least once a week would show that I like her.
I wouldn't go like 10 days without talking to her. I ve only known her for about a month month and a half. So it's still really early. But I figured I should ask some women, since I've seen some girls on here kind of freak out if they feel like a guy they like doesn't contact them enough. Women don't understand that men are not communicators, its not how we bond. Our lack of communication has nothing to do with a lack of interest in you, it has to do with our lack of interest in talking.
This does not really matter to me for 2 reasons. One, like I stated before, I am not interested in men that have a lack of interest in communication with me. There are more men than you think who like to communicate a lot more, so the guys who don't just aren't a good match for my needs. Second, I have watched guys transform from "bad communicators" to "good communicators" when they really decided they were interested. While it may be true for some men that their lack of communication is simply.
Most men desire more communication when they're really set on a girl. Not all, but most from MY experience.
How often should you see someone when you first start dating - Cape Town Fringe
So either way, whether the reason is the former or the latter, I would not be interested in that type of man, so whether he is seeing other women or not isn't really the issue. The guy I am currently in a relationship with used to say that he was a bad texter and phone talker, to the point where I was losing interest. Once he decided he was in love with me, suddenly he's texting me all day and calling me twice a day.
And we've been together for 2 years! I need a good communicator, end of story for me, and most men I've encoutnered have been able to provide this. Definitely food for thought. I think the whole talking twice a day on the phone is a little over the top though. Especially in addition to texting. Will they like my parents? Are we going to take trips to Napa together? Shit, I should buy a new suitcase. To quote Doris Day,. Stop, take a deep breath, and enjoy it.
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