Dating but she never calls

The girl I'm dating never calls me so I always have to call her to setup it's kind of weird. sometimes when I call her to just to talk, she will invite.
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She would especially want you to prove yourself to her if she has recently been hurt by a guy, like you mentioned. In an attempt to never come across as needy and desperate she went to the other extreme. I could see how this behavior would bother you. Even the most confident, dominant man wants to know that he is being wanted , and I hope that as many women as possible get to read this. I think the best way to handle this issue is similar to handling many other touchy issues with someone you started dated.

Bring it up and talk about it. Just ask her why she never contacts you first and encourage her to be honest with you. This is much better than trying to read her mind. You are not begging her to call or text you first. You are just being curious about the reasons for her behavior. There could be a number of reasons for this seemingly ambivalent behavior: About practicalh Practical, effective dating tips and relationship advice.

Get More Exclusive Content! It sounds to me like she is interested if she's using positive text messaging methods, like exclamation points and emojis. And if it's only been two weeks, then I would say this is all really positive. She might not even have tried going fishing or hiking with you yet! Yeah, I think you just need to keep putting positive energy on this, think about her needs, and don't worry too much about how quickly people respond to you. Consistency is more important than how quickly they respond to you.

Time and time again, I have found that consistency is the underlying factor in these things. Some people's text message methods are slower or not as intense as other people's. People have different texting methods, but it's not near as important as what happens in person. I have been "friends" with this lady for a couple years but we really never talked a lot. Until recently we have been talking quite often. She never starts convos in the one who takes that role which I totally don't mind. I don't message her all the time just when I get an urge to text her.

She usually responds pretty quick, she's a really nice person with get goals and things she wants to do in life. However I'm alittle confused, like most guys including me we always don't understand if ladies are flirting back or is she's been nice to me. We have been flirting back and forth including a lot of emojis and extra exclamation points.

Any tips on what's going on and what to do next?? I give ideas on dates and things to do together and she hasnt said no to them.. Well Andrea, at the moment I'm really in the dark here. Especially when I read these kind of 'signs she I've met a girl a few months ago. Everything went quite smooth, especially when we saw each-other in real life since I have a kid from an earlier relationship already, let's say every two weeks. Since the beginning, texting frequencies were rather low. Let's say we talked to each-other every two or three days.

Most of the time I initiated the messages and she quickly replied with short, happy, responces. Especially, because I think and maybe that's just paranoia , If I'm not sending anything, I don't get anything. On the onther hand, if I do sent something and I'm not the type of guy that bombards girls with messages , she answers still quick, and still with some smileys. Do I leave her alone and see what happens? I've been talking to this lady for about two weeks. We have been friends but we hardly talked until recently.

I start the conversations whenever I feel the urge to not all the time and she tends to reply quick within a 4 hour time frame. She seems extremely willing to try new things she's never done before with me.. She uses exclamation points and does send emojis a blushing smiley, laughing, wink, smiley.. Also she never just says thank ou when I give her compliments. She's pretty nice but I can't tell what's going on. I am taking my time with this any tips? This sounds like a reasonable plan. It can be hard to immediately starting dating from work, especially when new. You don't want to mess up your work situation, and you don't all the other people yet, or the social dynamics.

It's best to start a positive rapport with her first. The more she can trust you, the less she'll work about it being an office romance. I think you where mainly right. She did get back to but said she felt uncomfortable, because we worked in the same office, that she was new and didnt usually date people at work.

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She also said i should come chat to her more next time i m in her department. I get the feeling being new and not really knowing me, she doesnt want to jump into dating work people. As we get know each other better and she feels more comfortable with the hole thing, maybe something will happen. I m usually pretty good with these things and have dated a lot of girls, the only reason i m chasing is that when were person to person chatting i get a really good vibe, and can tell her too and those things don't come around that often Hopefully i m not being blind and she's just not interested?

My first thought is that since you work together, it's okay if things are slowed down. You have more chances to grow this thing out than if you were trying to connect with her online. So you don't need to panic at all really. There's a lot of unknown parts about this at this point since it is all new. What you do need to do is focus on creating a positive connection. Instead of pushing forward dating so much, try creating a friendly, positive presence so that you can have more to work with here. Do text her, keep it fun and friendly.

I'm not saying friendzone, but just keep things a little more simple here. Keep a witty banter, be funny, be nice. When the timing is right, ask her to go get coffee or brunch. She needs a little more prepping before you go out, and maybe her schedule is a mess right now. I have had a poor schedule before when someone was interested in me and all that was really needed was patience on their side. Patience is your answer. Keep inviting her to different things. You have something here that you can develop -- and put little tokens of kind things toward her -- consider it like a bank.

I think there is potential here, in all honesty. She might have gotten a little scared and you might have pushed more than she was ready to accept So you can have many, many takes on how you present yourself to her. Just so you know, the most successful relationships start at workplaces. Not bars, not Tinder, not church. Literally, right where you work is the best place to be to find love.

Be a gentleman, show interest, play your cards well. But I like a girl at work, and chatted to her a few times in passing and got the vibe she like me. One night when I was out I bumped into her boss who's on the same managerial level as me, I m a few years older and more senior than her at work and she randomly told me the girl liked me. So the following week I messaged her on the work system, ask her out and got her number. Since then we've been texting back and forth in quite a positive way, she's really slow to responses 1 or 2 days sometimes , but gets back most of the time.

I asked her out a few times but for various reason we couldn't find a time to meet up I was away and unfortunately her gran passed away. Even though I'd love to chat to her face to face as real contact is always best, unfortunately we haven't crossed paths. Anyway it's been over a month now since the initial interaction and a few weeks since her gran passed, I feel like the texting is running a little dry. So started texting a bit shorter and more direct about meeting up, we where meant to go for a drink last Friday, but she suddenly cancelled last minute with no explanation and ask to rearrange.

I said that was fine and left it at that. I message her Monday saying hey how's your week looking? I also said it was a shame we didn't cross paths more often as it was nice catching a glimpse of her at work It's been 2 days and she hasn't got back to me. I m a being to pushy, did the moment pass, was that comment about catching a glimpse of her at work too much and scared her off? Or is she just being shy and playing the game a bit? I don't won't to be rude or pushy, but I pretty sure that if we just hang out in person we would get on great and there would be something to build on.

Keep chatting with her. It is okay if people don't use emojis. You should meet her for coffee or brunch one day, say you would like to meet in person, if that's okay with her. Don't put too much pressure on it, and she'll probably be glad you offered to meet in person. Hello, I like this girl we go to the same school but we haven't really met in person every time I try to talk to her she's with her friends and when I'm walking home I saw a girl that looks just like her so I messaged her asking if she lived on the same street as me and she told me that was indeed her.

We've been talking since the 10th of march. We have a lot in common we both like The walking dead sports and similar music interests. When I talked to her for the first time she was friendly and seemed to really care about her grammar. I told her that I saw her in one of my classes and how I was going to say hi the next time I saw her in person. She told me that she wanted to see Logan which was a movie I saw during the march break but she hasn't seen it.

I really wanted to ask her if she wanted to see the movie together but I figured it would've been too awkward to go to a movie with someone you haven't seen in person. I'm not really sure what to do I'm really interested in her and getting to know her further but I don't see her around school much anymore. I also noticed she doesn't use emoji's what so ever is that normal? I also don't know how to tell her how I feel about her. Your advice is greatly appreciated.

There's no telling what will happen. Be confident, be happy, and seem like you have a nice vibe. Women like to be around positive people. Don't worry so much. Focus on your smile, focus on making her feel at ease. I like her I started out playful text teasing her right from the first texting day she sent me a picture of her to show off how long her hair is when not up we work together.

She does not shy away from conversation how ever she never text me on her own except once when she wanted to know if I was working. Every vibe I'm getting is saying your a nice guy but not my kinda guy this also has only been about 3 weeks or so. But I'm often terrible at interpreting these things Somehow I find myself in a mixture of "she's totally not interested" and "booty call".

It sounds like she is interested. Don't base too much on texting. Have you guys met in person? In person communication is the most important. Most people have busy schedules so they can't be texting at every and any second of the day. I say you should keep communicating with her and see where it goes. It helps if you initiate more than her; most girls prefer that and it makes more sense to them. Been texting with this girl for all most two months. She msgs early in the morning late at night always sends me hearts and kisses but still not sure what to think because she's vague about everything.

Some days super flirty and other days seems uninterested completely. Just wondering if I should just leave things be the way they are and see what happens? I can understand that if she feels like she can't give you children, that this won't be going anywhere. If she is willing to talk, you should let her know how much she means to you and that children isn't all you want. Also, there's adoption, if she's interested in that -- but that's not the real thing you should be focusing on. Let her know you didn't mean to make her feel less than the wonderful person she is.

I don't know how sensitive this issue is for her if she can't have children. It may mean a lot to her. She may have had someone in her past leave her for this reason. I think you'll want to come off as a positive person, someone that she knows she can have fun with, and knows won't suddenly leave or breakup with her. She may have saw this as a big red flag and had to cut her loses before she got into it too deep. I wish you the best of luck! As for how busy she is and if that is real -- as long as people keep talking, I can imagine they really are busy. If she is willing to make time for you, that is a plus.

It's easy to get windswept being busy. Are you initiating any of these conversations? She may be wanting you to take the lead on this. It weirds women out more when guys are not initiating conversations. You should do nothing.

She is obviously very upset and feels betrayed, even if it doesn't make sense. She may have thought you had genuine interest and needed time before she caught up, but then she felt like something happened and you were not as genuine as she thought. She is trying to put distance on it.

You should give her as much space as possible for awhile.

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I would agree with you and say focus on the new girl and not waste time on the old one. I don't think things would work out there. As to whether you were wrong And when it comes to relationships, you want to avoid thinking too much in right or wrong terms -- that can get you to think too narrow minded and end up losing a relationship.

Sometimes people are both right The problem more so is miscommunication. You want to communicate well and without lying. You also want to understand people's intentions and build a healthy amount of trust. But getting more so as to what you want -- what was happening that night for her, what her intentions were, or what she could have been doing I wouldn't play investigator too much in a relationship.

It can end up causing you to play the wrong cards and get paranoid. I would say she teased you with her outfits for sure, but for what reason and what she was actually doing -- who knows. BUT if you are with someone new who puts you at ease and things are going in a more calm direction, then that is good. It seems like the other girl attracts a lot of negative attention. Also, don't go looking for trouble with this old girl -- if you have someone new and you're exclusive, muddying up the waters can really end up to bite you back, whether karma or feelings.

I hope this is helpful. I would say odds are the old girl was up to some kind of mischief, considering the background. I would put it out of sight out of mind so as not to distract you. Feel free to reach out to me! I've never posted a question on a site like this before but this one girl is confusing the hell out of me. I'm not a kid 33 and neither is she She tells me that she finds me attractive but is not ready to be in a relationship. She laughs and has a good time when we're together.

She flicks her hair, locks her lips, and looks into my eyes with this look that seems fairly obvious. She sends me nude photos of herself both of her own free will and when I ask her. Her last relationship ended badly with the guy stalking her until she got a restraining order against him. Before that she had a relationship with a guy for 10 years. That relationship ended with the guy in prison after he kicked in her door, assaulted her, and then stole her purse and car.

So I get it. She's had a rough go, but that seems to be the type of guy that she is attracted to and that certainly isn't me. I mean, I'm a geological research scientist for god's sake. So I'm not that type of scientist you're probably picturing. I can be rough and most people would describe me as very aggressive, but I'm not a degenerate like the guys she's always dated before. Recently there was a week when she was totally free and clear of any obligations. We had many plans for that week. But right as the week started a "member" from out of town showed up at her place.

He stayed there for the week and she cancelled all of our plans. I was obviously pissed clean off by this so she explained that "most guys find him intimidating" and that "she didn't want to put me in any danger". I explained that I couldn't care less about who he is and that I just wanted to spend time with her but I never saw her that week once. She assured me that nothing happened between them, but even if that's true it doesn't fix the situation, right? So 2 weeks ago I sent her a text that saying that I wanted an answer right then and there.

Does she want to be in a committed relationship with me or not. I told her this was the curtain call and her final answer. She said she needed more time to heal so I said ok. That night she texted me saying that she's coming out of the dark now and ready to date guys again. She said she has a date with this guy. I said "that's fantastic. I hope he makes you happy, you deserve that. I don't think that's what she wanted to hear because she started back peddling out of it. Saying it wasn't really a date and she isn't really interested in that guy at all.

When I try to talk to her she just stonewalls me. Saying things like "I have a lot to say about that topic" but she's always too "busy" to just talk about it then and there. I waited by patiently for 5 whole months for her to be ready but we made no progress whatsoever. As a matter of fact I'd say we went backwards for the last 3 or so. She sends me things like Mike Posner's music video "I Took a Pill in Ibiza" which is a very depressing song about a guy who messed himself up for years. But he can't break out of the cycle that he hates because he no longer knows who to trust and therefore will be alone.

But here's the kicker. One night, many weeks ago, she sent me a picture of her in 3 different outfits and asked which one I thought looked best on her. I told her which one I liked and asked if I could come over to take it off of her. She said that she couldn't because her sister was over. I pursued, I'm a guy, what can I say? But she was completely silent.

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About an hour later I got a text back saying that she was driving to work. But her work is only half an hour away and it was not at an appropriate time for a shift change at the hospital but I didn't pay much attention to that yet. So I went over to my brothers for some gaming. On my way home I figured I'd drop her off a coffee since it was an overnight shift. When I got to the hospital I was informed that she did not work that night.

Then thinking back on it I realized that the timing was all off for her shift. Plus she would have told me that I can't come over because she has to work, not because her sister was over. It just made no sense. Then I thought about the advice on her outfit and I couldn't escape the real possibility that she had got me to weigh in on the outfit she wore to date another guy.

Needless to say I started seeing red right about now. She texted me later that night, around 4am, and I made it quite clear that I knew something was up. Right off the bat I asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me. She said "no, I was at work".


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So I said "Oh you were at work tonight? I asked a paraphrased version of that 3 more times in that same conversation saying "Work? Oh you were working tonight? I didn't realize you were at work today".

She never texts you first because she’s (really) busy.

Each separated by several text messages. The next day I just straight up confronted her about it. I told her I knew she wasn't at work so why was she lying to me. She latched onto the "I know you weren't at work" part rather than the fact that she was lying. She started getting mad at me asking who I had in the hospital spying on her.

Which yet again does not make sense. The natural progression would be to affirm her innocence THEN to try and uncover the source. She never once said what you, I, or anyone else would say, "What? Tell me, if you know. Did I jump the gun here? Am I misinterpreting things from her?

Is there another explanation as to that night that seems to be such a blatant lie to me? Not that it will change my path mind you. The girl I have now is absolutely perfect. I'm just curious if I could have been so wrong because I don't like being wrong. Most likely too early to tell. Sounds like it is in the beginning stages.

I'd keep being positive, make it fun, and make sure she is comfortable. You'll get further along this way. Hi there, I've known this woman for about 4 months.

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I have a crush on her a few months ago then last week I asked for her number and she gave it to me. So that day I took a few pictures of her and sent them to her mobile phone without saying anything. She didn't reply or text anything back to me at all. So I thought she didn't like me. Then a week later I sent her another message to ask for her suggestion about school stuffs and she replied me half an hour later and said would help me out and set a time to chat about it.

So I wonder if any chance that she likes me or it is too early to tell? Sounds like she is wanting you to take the lead. Try asking her to hang out one on one and see what happens. She might not know what she wants yet. But if you know what you want Sounds like the two of you are close enough that mentioning this shouldn't hurt anything. Hey man, so there's this girl that I recently got to know about a few weeks back, and she seems to be interested and we have pretty in-depth convos sometimes, and there was a time when we were walking home from school together and she asked me why I don't text her.

I told her I assumed she had lots of guys texting her already, but she told me there was only one guy consistently texting her, and that I should text back sometime soon. My mom, my friends, a love interest—my level of suckiness is all the same. There is reason for it though. I do enough typewriting in a day to last me a lifetime. I would much rather a phone call than a text. It completely throws me off balance. I forget about texts and then I end up looking like an asshole because I never reply or worse I reply a couple days later. What can I say? So, I mentioned being busy. There are some men who have been interested in me who respect and understand that, so they never complain about texting me first.