Have you ever tried to list out all the different dating advice you've heard — even just the advice from other Christians? Here's my golden rule.
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You control how a man treats you! Before you make the decision to begin embracing your new life style, I'm going to list a few do's and don'ts--for your dating pleasure.
What Does the Bible Say About Dating
If someone you have a strong attraction for, or vice versa, invites you to an evening event, make it a group thing. Always keep your first seven dates filled with educational and cultural things. It helps to stimulate the intellect and not the sex drive. On the first date dress conservatively because, remember, the attention must not be drawn to any part of your physical body.
When you dress naked, you leave nothing to the imagination and you cause him never to tap into the real person that you are! If you are very serious about your interest in a person, before there is any talk of marriage always insist that he meet your pastor--shepherds can see farther than the sheep can If a man invites you to his home, for any reason at all--whether it's to see his trophies or his pet, help him decorate, or even to see the ashtray he made in the first grade--always take a friend.
Remember, you're walking into his territory, where his spirit rules. That's just like a mouse walking to the throat of a lion thinking he's going to turn around and walk back out; mind you the lion hasn't eaten in a while. If a woman invites you to her home, and it is early on during your season of dating, it is not unmasculine to say that you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that If it's just a friendship, on the first two or three dates the bill should be shared.
If he is pursuing you, then he should pay the bill. People have asked me questions about flowers.
Should Christians Date ‘Just To Date?’
I believe the rose makes much too powerful a statement. Try and stay away from that flower until there is definitely love involved! If you are going to give flowers to a woman within the first seven dates or the first two months, let it be a bouquet of various flowers. It might look like this:.
Take the expectations off the table and allow yourself the freedom to navigate the relationship with normalcy. When dating, your job is to guard your heart and use wisdom to learn about one another. Agree that the only expectation is to honor and respect each other and allow for organic growth, not forced.
Sin consciousness muddies our lens from seeing people as God sees them. It even blocks us from seeing ourselves as God sees us.
Date with a God-consciousness and submit your time together to The Lord. Refuse to initiate a relationship thinking about all the negative things that could happen. Will some moments be awkward, yes absolutely! Behind every good marriage is an even better friendship.
Instead of thinking about dating with marriage as the end goal, focus on friendship.
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Finally, part of guarding your heart is not letting someone into the intimate areas of your life foolishly. This is true with just about anything in life. If you stay close to God throughout the process, you will be safe. Allow the wisdom of the Holy Spirit to guard, guide and direct your dating path. So I know some people will vehemently disagree with this viewpoint, but these are honest conversations we need to start having in the Christian community.